Do you find some things hard to accept? Do these things create personal boundaries? Do the boundaries form limitations? Do the limitations shape character?
Try this exercise with me. Grab a piece of imaginary chalk. Draw a big circle. Now, throw everything you deem unacceptable into the circle. One by one. Keep going. Think harder. Chuck it all in.
As you’re throwing these items in your circle, recognize what you’re feeling-heartache, pain, anger, resentment, disgust, angst, nausea, overwhelm. The feelings associated with unacceptable events are never good, are they? Well, sometimes, but the emotion tied to those events is usually envy.
Keep going. Throw it all in. Then stand back and take a look. What a mess, right? Now pick that chalk back up and label your circle: baggage.
Take a few steps to the right and draw another circle. Make it big enough to fit you. Now, step into your circle. This is the circle of acceptance. It’s all you: mind, body and soul. It’s who you are, how you think, what’s important. If you take the time to make a list of these items you’ll start to see all the things you love about yourself because love and acceptance are inseparable.
It’s not a mistake that there’s a pumping heart in the center of you. This pulsating mass of muscle that shares the same universal symbol of love, keeps you alive. Embrace the notion that you are kept alive by love (you are).
Take another look at your baggage circle. Is there anything in that vast space worthy of your love? Do any of those items look different if you look at them from a perspective of love? Is it all still baggage? Or can something be saved? For instance, one of the high ticket items in my baggage circle is dishonesty. I can’t stomach it. But when I see it from the perspective of love then I’m able to see a different view, especially when the dishonesty may have come from a lack of love, or worse-pure fear. Suddenly there’s more to understand. It’s not black and white. It’s completely gray, and when examined from the angle of love, it actually turns white.
When you work from a center of love most things you think are black eventually turn white in the light. It takes time. It takes understanding. It takes an unbiased, flexible approach that’s sometimes maddening and other times quite easy. The good news is, it starts to get rid of your baggage. And when you start to get rid of your baggage, it becomes a whole lot easier to accept change in your life.